Helping Children Navigate Transitions: A Parent's Guide

Why Transitions Can Be Hard

Transitions are changes from one activity, place, or person to another. Even small shifts like stopping play to come to dinner or getting out of the car to go to school can feel big to a child.

For some children, especially those who are highly sensitive, neurodivergent, or struggle with emotional regulation, transitions can be overwhelming. Their brains crave predictability, and sudden changes can feel like a loss of control.

Signs that your child might be struggling with transitions: - Meltdowns when it is time to stop a preferred activity - Resistance or refusal to change locations - Difficulty following routines - Repeated questions or anxiety about what is next - Trouble calming down after a transition

What Parents Can Do: Transition Activities and Strategies

1. Use Visual Timers or Cues

Show how much time is left using sand timers, visual countdowns, or timers on your phone. This helps children see the transition coming.

2. Create Predictable Routines

Use the same order for daily transitions (e.g., wake up → brush teeth → get dressed → breakfast). Predictability creates emotional safety.

3. Give Gentle Warnings

Offer five-minute, two-minute, and one-minute warnings before a change. Use calm, consistent language: “In five minutes, we will be packing away toys.”

4. Use Transition Songs or Rituals

Sing a song, clap a rhythm, or say a phrase you use every time a transition happens. For example: “It’s time to tidy, 1-2-3, let’s clean up so happily!”

5. Offer a Choice

Give your child some control: “Do you want to walk or hop to the bathroom?”

6. Bridge with an Object or Activity

Allow them to bring a small toy or object from one activity to the next, or use a calming activity between transitions (e.g., deep breathing, squeezing putty).

7. Use Visual Schedules

Post pictures of what happens during the day so your child knows what to expect. Cross out activities as they are completed.

8. Connect Before You Direct

Get down to your child’s level, make eye contact, and use a calm tone. Connection before instruction increases cooperation.

9. Celebrate Successful Transitions

Notice the effort: “You packed away your toys even though it was hard. That was brave.”

When to Reach Out for Help

Some struggles with transitions are typical, but if your child: - Has daily meltdowns during transitions - Cannot calm down even with support - Avoids routines, places, or activities because of anxiety around change - Shows aggressive or self-harming behavior when asked to shift

…it may be time to talk to an occupational therapist or psychologist. Support is available, and early help can make a big difference.

Final Thought

Transitions are tricky for many children, but they can become smoother with patience, practice, and support. Simple strategies at home can reduce stress and help your child feel safe and successful during change. Your steady presence is the most powerful transition tool of all.